The Writer’s Life: Dealing With Mind Monkeys

I am continuing my series about Negative Thoughts (this is where it all started), and I’m discussing anxiety in the writer’s life today.

My post is part of the…

My Best Advice to New Writers Blogfest held at the Peevish Penman

This tour takes place on Thursday, July 15th. Check out all the great blogs on this tour.

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You have finally committed your life to writing and it is time to get serious.

The first task? Get a regular writing time and make it a routine.

Okay, that should be easy enough.

Just write…

But then, the wild jumping Mind Monkeys start climbing and swinging across your mind, interrupting your thoughts with many distractions…

I need to do the laundry first…maybe I’ll write after a cup of coffee…I need to check in on Twitter first…I feel a little tired today, maybe I’ll be more rested tomorrow…I don’t know where to go next with this novel…Why am I doing this, anyway, it probably won’t get published…I’ll spend years of my life on this…who am I to think I can write?…Geez, you’re so stupid.

Before you know it, the Mind Monkeys not only distract you from your writing, but they continue to screech and chatter until your motivation, confidence and self-esteem are at risk. Sometimes you explain your distractions with rational explanations, other times you beat yourself up for not being disciplined. But each similar event brings more anxiety.

You may feel low energy, sadness, doubt, nervousness, indecision, anger or self-deprecation taking over and sending you into full-fledged anxiety, depression or both.* You may also not realize that anxiety is at the root of your logical, rational explanations as to why you aren’t writing.

Why does this always happen to me? I am so messed up, I will never create anything…

And, in this state you don’t, not today, tomorrow, maybe not for a year (decade) or more.

What happened to the commitment, the joy and inspiration to write?

Why does this cycle happen to so many writers? (What? It does?)

Eric Maisel, in a chapter about anxiety in The Van Gogh Blues states:

This painful cycle – threatening thought, anxious reaction, and a full retreat – is a fundamental cycle in the lives of creative people. Most creators are not aware of the existence of this cycle or that anxiety is a mighty brake preventing them from creating and from making meaning.

What causes all of our anxiety?

There can be many reasons why writers have anxiety – biological or psychological genetic factors, being a highly sensitive person, diet, or lack of exercise. And, these factors may contribute.  But, there is also another cause of regular bouts of anxiety in creative people. Eric Maisel describes the meaning crisis:

Creative people are anxious not because they are neurotic but because the meaning crises they experience precipitate anxiety.

Primary existential anxiety wells up in us when we try to make meaning, when we are thwarted in our efforts to make meaning, and when we are confronted by meaning drains, meaning losses, and other meaning problems.

What are we to do? Are we doomed to a life of anxiety?

Well, yes and no. We are always trying to create meaning with our writing and often that is hard, frustrating work.

I am guessing that most writers believe they are alone in their experience of anxiety. They may feel defective or guilty that they have these feelings.  Many writers may not realize that anxiety is causing their writing blocks. As writers, we will probably have anxiety arise throughout our entire lives. But, we can become more aware of it and more skillful at managing anxiety.  Eric Maisel, in The Van Gogh Blues, says we must become anxiety experts:

An anxiety expert asks himself, “What am I really feeling?” and “What am I really thinking?” Honesty and truth-telling are the watch-words. There is no magic anxiety cure any more than there is a magic depression cure. Antianxiety medication may serve you, just as antidepressants may serve you, but the best service is the one you provide by diving beneath the radar of your defenses and confronting the reality underneath.

Just becoming more aware of the profound role that anxiety plays in your life can make all the difference in the world.

You may believe that if you are doing your best work, or publish your novel, then you will be rewarded with a peaceful, calm mind. But most authors and creativity experts will tell you that is not necessarily the case. And often, it is the opposite.

We may never cage our Mind Monkeys for long, but we can learn their ways and maybe train them to do a few good tricks for us.

As writers we must respect our need to create a meaningful life, which requires us to courageously show up each day to write and learn to become anxiety experts.

Eric Maisel concludes:

You need to brave anxiety, not do everything in your power to avoid it.

The facts of existence make us anxious. Our own thoughts make us anxious. Creating makes us anxious. A cloud passing across the sun makes us anxious. We are built to experience anxiety… Know this, and be brave.

Be brave, peace and creativity can be yours. Well, maybe not all the time. (Remember, you are a writer!) But isn't the monkey cute?

“He who strives will never enjoy this life peacefully.”  — Paul Klee

I will continue with more ideas on dealing with Negative Thoughts next week with the topics of anxiety and depression in the writer’s life.

Another great resource from Eric Maisel to help identify the negative thoughts that may be causing anxiety and depression in the writing life is, Write Mind: 299 Things Writers Should Never Say to Themselves (What They Should Say Instead)

*Special Note: This article, and all articles on my site are not meant to be medical advice. If you are suffering from severe depression, anxiety or symptoms that are affecting your daily functioning for an extended period of time, please seek professional help from a therapist.


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32 responses to “The Writer’s Life: Dealing With Mind Monkeys”

  1. […] week was my Writer’s Life post – Dealing With Mind Monkeys – which was part of the Peevish Penman blog tour about advice for beginning […]

  2. I can definitely relate to those little mind monkeys, I fight with them most days. Sometimes I win and sometimes they do. I’m still trying to find the best way to keep them caged. Thanks for the great post.

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  4. I suppose, okay, I admit, the Mind Monkeys hit me harder than some because I’m terrified of monkeys in the first place, cute as most people think they are. (One tried to eat me at the zoo when I was about 7 years old.) And I’ve always tried to run from them.
    But it does make so much more sense to not only face them, but turn their habits around and use them to our advantage. Why haven’t I tried this before?

    Thanks for another fantastic article Anne! Hope you got enough rest from the parties!

  5. Are the mind monkeys related to the ones locked in the room with the typewriter? You know, the ones that supposedly really wrote Hamlet…

    Seriously, I find writing therapuetic as well – not a source of stress but a relief from it. Everyone keeps talking about how hard it is, which makes me wonder what I’m doing wrong. I think maybe I’m not pushing myself enough. The only time I’ve found it stressful was when I started writing this one vampire story, but it felt like a confession. And I realized that I was writing down all my own worst fears. I ended up chickening out and putting the story away. That was the only time though I found writing stressful. Is it possible to be stressed that you aren’t stressed enough about it? I don’t even know if that makes sense…

    Also, I don’t trally know what is meant by meaning. Meaning in what… writing? In the story itself? If I write a funny zombie story, my intent is to make people laugh. Would that be the meaning?

    1. I’m not stressed by my writing either. I write to entertain, so I’m throughly entertained when I do, heh.

      My monkeys come from the other side of my life, the non-writing one. Of course, once I start querying things might change. ;P

  6. I ride this wave. Sometimes, I even find myself sitting in front of my laptop ready to tweet to everybody my heartfelt confession:

    I can’t write.

    Really, I can’t.

    I needed to let everybody know.

    I’m so sorry.

    I don’t know what I was thinking.

    Thanks for this post, it reconfirms to me exactly what I’ve always believed. It always passes given time. They are the weather cycles of our creative confidence; what it takes to grow an author.

  7. Anne – This is a very terrific blog post. As writers we always cycle through phases of extreme inspiration and of extreme … uh … non-inspiration 😉 It’s good to recognize that it’s normal and by just giving yourself permission to go through these cycles often works wonders.

    I do have one specific point, however … readers should keep in mind that “anxiety” is a loaded term and can either mean general worry, frustration, etc. or it can mean a physiological state of anxiety including rapid heart rate, difficulty breathing, etc. This type of anxiety is *not* normal as part of our every day writing life and if it’s present, we need to take active steps to reduce it. I have been dealing a lot lately with physiological anxiety and so I thought it was important to draw the distinction.

    1. Thanks PJ, yes, you are right – I didn’t address the physical signs of anxiety and the official diagnosis of anxiety as a disorder – those that have the severe symptoms should contact a therapist – as recommended in my note!

      I’m so sorry to hear you are having problems. Anxiety symptoms can come up so suddenly and be very difficult to control at times. Our body seems to have a “mind” of it’s own and even when we try to calm our mind, our bodies act up anyway. There can also be many different physical conditions (including hormonal changes) that cause anxiety symptoms – especially the physical reactions. I hope you are feeling better soon!

  8. I love this post, Anne. As with all your Writer’s Life posts, this is very relevant and useful advice. But, I must say, I’m sorry – right now all I can think about is this. http://j.mp/aPkDVD . I admit it, I am hopeless and I will slink away into the shadows now. You should not have mentioned monkeys! 😉

    1. ROFLMAO! I’m dying here – my eyes are tearing up in laughter. Now that is all I can think of too!!!

      You have attended a few too many of my parties – now you know right where to get us!

  9. Mind monkeys–I like that term. I think of Monkeys as playful but disruptive, just like crazy thinking. By doing what my thinking says I can’t do, I prove the ‘enemy’ wrong. I find that helpful to shoo the monkeys away.

    1. Hi Lynn,

      I like that – Monkeys as playful but disruptive! If we include gorillas in the analogy, I see the gorilla at our local zoo in my mind – he is the one that always throws poop at the onlookers – hopefully our minds won’t go there…

  10. So you’re saying I’m not crazy? Thank you so much! Huzzah!

    1. Well, I’m not sure if I said that, you are a writer, after all – we are an interesting bunch!

  11. Ooo…look! Twitter! Shiny! LOL

    Twitter and social media as a whole are my biggest “mind monkeys”. I purposefully carved out my writing time late at night, not only because I’m a night owl, but also because at 10:30pm, there are no more demands on my time, and I can devote the next 1 1/2 to 2 hours just to writing. It’s quiet, and if I focus, I get a lot done.

    So yeah. I think I need more trees for the monkeys. And bananas. Or maybe just a tire swing. 🙂

    Great post – thanks!

    1. Hi Jamie,

      See, you are just like me – Oh Shiny! It catches on because you are right – Twitter and such are a huge mind monkey – maybe that is why we relate to it so much – hehe!

      I like the quiet hours at night too – lots of ideas love to visit when the monkeys go to sleep. Oh fun, tire swing!

  12. I’ve been trying really hard to set myself the goal of writing in the mornings before I switch Twitter on. Some days it’s really easy to focus, on other mornings it’s….oh look, shiny! 😉

    Like Laura, I find writing is the best way, if not to ward off the mind monkeys, at least to get them to stay quiet, for a while.

    1. Hi Sam,

      LOL! I can’t stop saying that now – Oh, shiny!!! I think I will hear that every time I open Twitter from now on!

  13. I’m not usually anxious about my own writing — not that I think it’s terrific or something! — but my own monkeys do keep me from writing from time to time…

    Should I feed them some nice bananas to placate them, or let them starve to death? heh

    As usual I love your illustrations, but the embroidered monkeys are so cute! heh

    1. Hi Mari,

      My advice – never starve the monkeys, you don’t want to see what they do when they get hungry.

      I must say that you will like the link Nishi put up for us – a whole new meaning to funny monkey! If that doesn’t get you writing, nothing will.

      1. ROFLMAO! Literally! ehe

        I’ll never forget this link. Every time the monkeys come to haunt me, I’ll feed them with that image. I’m sure they’ll like it better than bananas, hahha. XD

        As to my last comment. I don’t know where the “but” came from. Maybe it was the monkeys… They’re not here now though. Image. heh

  14. This is an awesome article with great advice! The mind monkeys have been swinging around far too much this week and really hampering my efforts. I really appreciate this article and your advice 🙂

    1. Thanks Rayvenne, I’m glad this was helpful for you!

  15. Oooooh the mind monkeys! They are HARASSING ME!!!

    If it’s not one variety keeping me from working on my WIP, it’s another keeping me from being as productive as I should be on the course lectures I’m supposed to be writing.

    No, no, I’m not procrastinating by reading interesting blog posts I find on Twitter. Of course not. Why would you say such a thing? :hides:

    1. Hi Kait,

      Thanks for stopping by. No, I’m sure many of us never procrastinate by reading blog posts – hehe!

  16. Another excellent informative post, which I’ve printed out to read again!

    Oh, those pesky mind monkeys. I guess that’s why I buy lots of bananas. 🙂

    1. Heehee! That is so funny! I think writers need to invest in purchasing a rain forest, just to keep all our monkeys happy!

  17. It’s odd, but my writing helps to ward off the Mind Monkeys from taking over everything else in my life!

    Another great post, Anne. The photo of the monkey and bird together is priceless!

    1. Hi Laura,

      Yeah, I definitely agree that writing can be one of the best ways to ward off anxiety. When we let the anxiety take over and we stop writing, that is when we are in real trouble.

      Write On!!

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