The Writer’s Life: Creative Flow & Sex

Admit it, what is your inner most desires…mad passionate creative flow or mad passionate sex?

The Love Grotto

Hard to choose? The two experiences may not be that different and may be connected. They both involve total surrender of control, and create powerful energy full of electricity. Some experts even propose that if you experience one, you are more likely to experience the other more easily.

I have a fun article to share with you this week that describes How Creative Flow is Like Sex, written by Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., a social psychologist, writer, and writing consultant, posting on Psychology Today. She has written the book, Writing in Flow: Keys to Enhanced Creativity. Susan states there are four ways that the creative journey is similar to making love:

      1. In both creative flow and sexual activity, you surrender control.
      2. Sex and creativity can each feel blocked.
      3. How you experience sex and how you enter a flow state both relate to your personality.
      4. Creating can itself cause an erotic charge.

Susan Perry includes several quotes from authors and poets about the creative flow experience in their lives.

A popular novelist (Carolyn See) said it this way: “When I create, I’m not thinking. In a sense, you’re better off not thinking about it. Like sex, you don’t want to think, oh now we’re in foreplay.”

Accessing More Creative Flow

It often feels like creative flow is the holy grail of the creative life. I sometimes wonder if I give enough attention to encouraging and protecting my creative space to access the flow more powerfully in my life. Sometimes writing becomes  analytical when I become too concerned with editing too early in the game.

I think a conscious effort to encourage more moments of creative flow is well worth the effort. Those times are so powerful, and it is easy to forget to enter this space in the midst of our busy lives. It is the essence of creative flow that gives us inspiration and energy. It is the open channel of pure creativity that we should be accessing regularly.

In, The Hidden Art of Achieving Creative Flow, written by Everett Bogue, author of The Art of Being Minimalist, as a guest on Zenhabits:Simple Productivity, he explains why flow is so hard to achieve.

Flow is a moment in time when you’re both challenged at the activity that you’re doing, and when you also have complete autonomy in the task you’re conducting.

If you’re not flowing, it’s probably because you aren’t allowing yourself to be challenged, you’re completely overwhelmed, or someone else is holding you back.

Everett continues by describing why is it so important for writers to engage the creative flow state.

I think it’s very important for writers to engage in flow. A lot of writers stop and meticulously edit their work after every sentence, but writing this way (for most people) is counterproductive.

Why? I believe it’s because of the same reason that dancers can’t stop dancing in improvisation. If you just keep writing for 30 minutes without stopping, you give your mind a chance to turn off the ‘conscious of me’ brain functions. This in turn grants more brain power to challenging the boundaries of your writing ability.

You cannot edit while you’re producing work. If you do, you’ll be constantly switching between your right brain and your left brain. Your creative center will be switching off and on and it will be harder to produce anything meaningful.

Everett describes the practice of achieving more flow as crucial to the creative process. It takes time alone and planning to work without distraction – including Twitter. Check out this interesting post to learn about ways you can increase the creative flow in your writing.

Happy Friday to everyone! Is creativity flowing in your life? Or is the muse a bit tired and overwhelmed? How do you actively cultivate creative flow? Let’s talk about how we’re doing this week. Have a chat in the comments or drop us a line on Twitter at #writerlbsOff.


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13 responses to “The Writer’s Life: Creative Flow & Sex”

  1. Very interesting. In regards to getting the flow going, I’ve learned that I might as well not even bother sitting down to write if I have only 30 minutes or less. It takes my brain as much as a half an hour sometimes to really get into the groove.

    1. Thanks, it does take many of us awhile to get into the groove. I find I need that too, to get my left brain turned off, or at least quieted enough.

  2. Love this post, Anne, and thank you. It ties in perfectly with my own process this last week – I’ve come to some deeper understandings of things I’ve known for a long time.

    It also reminds me of Piero Ferrucci’s book “What We May Be: Visions and Techniques of Psychosynthesis” (although he’s renamed the subtitle to “Techniques for Psychological and Spiritual Growth”. I’ll admit to having read some of it, but not all of it, though I hope to be reading it properly soon, especially as I’ve been aware of it for, oh, only the last eighteen years or so 😉

    1. Thanks, that book does sound very interesting. Let me know how you like it.

  3. Hi Anne,
    You write the coolest articles. You are so write on with how good sex and good creative flow works. It’s that being willing to let go of inhibitions and control and be open and in the moment. Fascinating.

    I’ve never thought about the right brain and left brain switching back and forth. Makes perfect sense. I’ve never known why I can’t edit and create at the same time. Some people can. Dean Koontz writes one page at a time, he will edit it up to a hundred times before he moves on to the next page. He must be extremely dexterous.

    I so appreciate the thought and time you put into these articles for we writer folk.

    I hope you can find a place of employment that suits what you are looking for in a job. I read an earlier comment and looks like you might have found ‘the one’.

    Thanks again, Anne. I sure do adore you. 😉

    1. Thanks so much Jodi! I’m glad you enjoyed the post!

      Yes, there are a few rare souls out there who are really good at switching between right and left brain. I find it much harder. When I am in the right brain I can’t spell hardly anything. Thank goodness for spell check.

      Wow – Dean Koontz must be a genius. And, I don’t think I have ever edited anything that much. I would go insane;)))

  4. My writing time comes in stages, too. This week, for instance, writing hasn’t been happening because of [unauthorized] changes in my work schedule. I’ve been so tired. Whenever I look at my notebook, I just shake my head and say “not today.” Hopefully next week will be more productive.

    1. That sounds like a rough week – I hope it does get better for you soon.

      Thanks for stopping by!!

  5. Great post – really interesting stuff 🙂

    I rarely get a few hours to do writing. Most of my time comes in 20 or 30 minute chunks. Yesterday I had about 1 and a half hours in a row. Amazing! I got so much done – the final chapter flowed out of my fingers. Awesome.

    1. Hi Jemi,

      I know what you mean! I am only starting to seriously write this year because my kids are going to school for the first time. When they were homeschooled, or before school,the chunks of time were so short I couldn’t get any traction.

      I say you are doing amazingly well with your short chunks of time, you must have come up with a great habit of channeling the creative energy quickly. Good for you!!

  6. Hi Everyone! I hope you are having a good week. Mine was a bit rocky. I applied for jobs, interviewed, and actually went out with the “night people” who eat dinner at restaurants past 7 p.m. It was exhausting and the job prospects are depressing. I don’t think I am cut-out for that kind of life anymore.

    I felt like I was entering alien landscapes from the long-ago past. But, I came home, got back into writing, and the world started to make sense again. And, there were 2 days of warm sun. So getting outside has helped a lot.

    I know I have to have several hours of quiet with no interruptions to get the creative flow going. If anyone is around, or I have other windows up on my computer, I get snapped back into my left brain and lose the creative flow. I really want to make more of a conscious effort to put aside distractions when I am writing!

    1. Hi Anne! It sounds like you’ve had quite a week and I hope thing job-wise resolve themselves as you would wish.

      I really do know what you mean about needing peace and quiet to get the creativity flowing. I’m just the same – I can’t write at all if there are other people around.

      Creativity usually comes at me over a good cup of coffee first thing in the morning, which would be great if there weren’t breakfasts to be made, people to be organised and such. Just lately there has been a noticeable increase in the burnt toast of a morning as I scribble away in my notebook, and it makes a pleasant change (for me at least) for me to be the one yelling out, “In a minute!”

      1. Ha, that is funny. I have burned a lot of hot cereal for the same reason and kids were almost late to school!

        Just got a call this afternoon from a practice I may want to join that has good contract terms, so my fingers are crossed.

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